I HAVE FORGIVEN BUT HOW WILL I EVER TRUST AGAIN?

Sunday, 10 August 2014 11:17 Written by 

 

How often have I been asked that very question. How often have I heard "I have said I am sorry a hundred times, please forgive me but she will not trust me again". By many it is expected that we should be trusting if we have forgiven...as if trust were simply a choice we make. It is thought, if you can't trust me again you must not have truly forgiven me. Often the individual who no longer trusts in their offender is made to feel as if they are in the wrong and need help.

It is interesting how scripture speaks little of how we are to trust each other. Actually John 2:24 tells us..."But Jesus [for His part] did not trust Himself to them, because He knew all [men]". Jesus never put His trust in man but fully in God. Simply we are only able to trust that which is trustworthy. It makes no sense to put our trust in that which has been or is untrustworthy. Trust is not a choice...however being willing to trust is. Trust must be earned. One who has been untrustworthy must prove they now can be trusted...this could take years.

To be trusted is a very precious...not easily come by. Whether you are judged to be untrustworthy unjustly or not...to regain trust takes the same course. There have been times when I have broken trust to which many of which still hang over my head. But there has also been times I have been judged to have broken trust unjustly to which I can do little about. To re establish trust in an individual takes effort on our part to prove ourselves to be trustworthy...but it also takes the willingness of the one not trusting to be willing to trust where one is trustworthy.

Some individuals are afraid to ever trust again and hold back in relationships believing they are protecting themselves from any further pain. To not be willing to trust is to put oneself in bondage in much the same way as holding onto unforgiveness. To close your heart off to trust is to deprive yourself of the much fuller life God has for us. To not be willing to trust again is to walk in rejection of others which only leads to loneliness and bitterness.

We were never asked to trust in others in the fullness of life...that trust is to lie in God, Jesus and Holy Spirit. But to the measure one is trustworthy we need to allow our hearts to trust. Trusting others is not a commandment...it is simply that which a loving heart will gravitate to if allowed.

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William Broer

William Broer is the co-founder of freedom House Canada Incorporated. He has a real passion for ministering to the brokenhearted. Having studied under several high-profile ministries and interning with Elijah House ministries, Bill is committed to making the word of God practical in our everyday experiences.

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